Is ‘me time’ even possible as a mum? Really, truly possible?
We are always told to take time for ourselves, to relax, get away, catch our breath but it’s hard isn’t it?
No matter what kind of mum you are, staying at home with children, staying home while they are at school, working from home or working out of the home…our work never leaves our sight. Our children are continually in need of raising, the over flowing hamper is often visible as are the mounting piles of clean clothing needing to be hidden. The dishes are always being dirtied, washed and put away, the dog can’t stop leaving piles of hair around every corner. Meal times don’t stop and will bedtime ever be anything like it used to be? Our work is always around us and we can always find something to keep us occupied.
For our husbands who work outside the home though they have a separation. Work and home. Work and play. Not that all men work and do nothing around the house (my husband certainly works long hours at work and home) but there is a difference I find. He has left his job. He is home to relax, take it easy and do what needs doing but in a less work-like manner. I myself am still in work mode and don’t let that go until both kids are in bed, the tidying is done and it’s all I can do to crash on the couch with a tea and TV show. I need to learn from him.
Running a home is hard and it can take all day, every day if you let it. We can become bitter with our duties if we find we are never breaking to care for ourselves and just enjoy our family and home.
I am challenging myself to leave work at work. Just like when I was a nurse you had to leave your baggage at the door.
How can this be done though as bellies get hungry ‘after hours’ and bedtime doesn’t quite fall into the office hours time slot? Keep it simple. Do what needs to be done, not what is nagging you to be done. No one makes you feel more guilty than yourself but you need to stop, to take time.
That load of laundry in the dryer can be folded in the morning but I would advise moving the washing over so mother mildew doesn’t take over in the night 🙂 The house can be quickly tidied but who’s going to see it at 10PM…relax a bit. Is this laziness? Heck no! I for one know how hard you work all day either looking after your babies or working hard for them! Take a note from your husband and try to leave work at 5!
Mums need to punch out too and it’s time we stopped feeling guilty for it! We may not be having ‘me time’ but it’s still time to forget about what can be done tomorrow and cherish those precious family moments that will float by as we scamper after that pesky dustball.