Wear your babies!
This is one of the greatest pieces of advice for new mums or mums new to having two. On the weekend while chatting with my mother in law she shared that her generation, or at least her circle of friends, did not use slings or carriers. I was not surprised that she had not used them but now having a newborn again I cannot imagine how she, or other mothers, got along without them! She even raised twins.
I compared two recent mornings during the past week. The first I did not baby wear. Did not think to strap on that fussy bubs and take care of my toddler with two hands. Instead I would wait til she fell asleep, carefully and precariously lay her down while rushing to get my toddler’s bum wiped, his clothes on and breakfast into his mouth rather than into his dump truck. At this point our darling daughter would fuss as she realized she could no longer smell the fresh milk that she is so drawn to, meaning I would need to scoop her back up, nurse her carefully with one arm as I wiped up spilled juice and changed my toddlers pants as he was so distracted with crashing cars he had dribbled. This routine of nursing, sleeping, laying down, picking up, nursing, sleeping, laying down, picking up went on and on the entire morning. My mum showed up and I sank into the kitchen chair letting her sweep the floors, change Honour again, tidy up the breakfast stuff and then hold Journey while I washed myself down and changed my shirt already exhausted by 9 in the morning.
BUT…the following day was the big shift. I used to wear Honour all the time but for some reason I had not done it as often with Journey..no clue why…maybe more distracted by trying to get my little dude to keep his pants on most of the day (not referring to Ben). That morning though I fed Journey, changed her and strapped her in for the long haul. She was asleep. She stayed asleep. Honour was fed and changed, breakfast was eaten by all, coffee was enjoyed hot and Honour and I even had a dance party halfway through the morning. Make up was applied, laundry was started and home was reasonably tidied up. Mum showed up and the three of us were sitting on a cozy chair reading books and READY for the day! Oh what an accomplishment, owed entirely to baby wearing. So much more can be achieved with two hands and boy am I thankful.
So mums…wear your babies. If you want to eat, drink beverages while they are still warm (most of the time) and have time to play with your other children without balancing a baby in the crook of your arm try out a sling, or a mei tie, or a tula or a woven wrap, the list goes ones.
You shall feel liberated.
Oh and while writing this both babies are sleeping…is this real life?